Where Would We Be Without Them?

Five and a half years ago, in the midst of a chaotic time for my husband and me, we were blessed with the birth of our first daughter, Daphne. Our lives improved from that moment forward by 1000%. Fast forward three years and eleven months to our next addition: Scarlett. We didn’t think it could get any better, but she happily proved us wrong.

But what if they never were? What would our lives be like now? First, let’s think about all of the things we would be able to do:

  • Go out whenever we want, without worrying about having to find a babysitter
  • Save money instead of hemorrhaging it away on daycare and diapers
  • Sleep late every weekend
  • Watch R-rated movies during the day, if we feel like it
  • Leave small and breakable objects lying, without worry of little fingers grabbing them or choking on them
  • And…well, I can’t really think of anything else
If we didn’t have children, we would be able to do any of those things. It would be wonderful! However, there would also be things that we would miss, like these:
  • See a smile directed our way and know that we are the absolute nucleus of someone else’s universe
  • Hear “mama” and “dada” for the first time…and then, over, and over, and over again for years
  • Sharing childhood toys with our own children, and actually getting to play with them again
  • Sticky hugs and kisses
  • Being woken up by a small being standing right next to the bed, inches from your face, and staring silently
  • Watching our babies sleep
  • Making smiley-face pancakes and feeling like a superhero
  • Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy

  • Going trick-or-treating on Halloween, even with the baby, and getting to sneak some of the loot (they don’t need all that chocolate, anyway!)
  • The first day of school, and the end of the first day of school
  • Family vacations that require a million bathroom breaks, several time-outs, and at least one thousand “Are we there yet?”s
  • Constant laughter and amusement at everything our children say and do
  • Teaching them about the world and watching their eyes light up as they take it all in for the first time
  • Bath time splashing, with lots of bubbles
  • Hearing “I love you,” and knowing that you will remember how freely they told you even when they’re teenagers and are yelling the opposite at you
  • And…about a billion other wonderful things
Basically, our life would be pretty boring without our beautiful babies. Sure, we would get to indulge ourselves sometimes, but it wouldn’t be as fun. It wouldn’t be a treat if we did it all the time, anyway.
We would be going to work, coming home, going through the daily routines only to start over again. There would be fewer surprises and not nearly as many reasons for doing what we do.
Where would we be without them? We would be lost.

Mama Kat’s Weekly Writing Prompts:
Mama’s Losin’ It


18 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Kimberly
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 00:31:47

    Well said. Though we’d have more freedom without our kids it would be empty. I wrote on the same prompt from Mama Kat’s!


  2. elizabeth
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 00:39:37

    Love it! I wouldn’t turn back for anything!


  3. Jessica
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 00:44:41

    I agree life would be boring with no kids. They really do make it fun.


    • Somer
      Jun 09, 2011 @ 08:14:44

      Having kids can be a great excuse to act silly sometimes! Our 5 year old has reached the age where she is now embarrassed when her parents dance in the car. Hahaha! That just make is even more fun for us! πŸ˜‰


  4. Michelle
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 01:23:15

    Aw, beautiful kids! It’s impossible to imagine life without our children, isn’t it? I know life wouldn’t be nearly as sweet if I didn’t have my three kids.

    Peace. πŸ˜‰


  5. Stacy Redmond
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 04:34:21

    My daughter Katharine is 9 weeks old, I have all this to look forward to and can’t wait. πŸ™‚ Loved your post. x


  6. Jen
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 07:38:31

    What a great post. Sure, life would be easier without kids but we would be missing so much joy and love.


  7. Anne Province
    Jun 09, 2011 @ 13:08:22

    I’m tearing up! So true all that you wrote. And it just goes by so fast. My son just turned 11 and I realized that in only 5 years he will be driving a car! My daughter is 8 and half. I wish we could slow down time or hit rewind sometimes!


    • Somer
      Jun 09, 2011 @ 16:26:47

      I got a little misty-eyed writing it! My oldest is about to start Kindergarten. I know I will cry way more than she will. πŸ˜₯


  8. Lisa
    Jun 10, 2011 @ 20:40:33

    I was trying to explain to a co-worker who said he decided he’s never going to have kids because the economy is too unstable, and it’s too expensive – all the great things that outweigh the financial issues. Would I have more money if I didn’t have a baby? No doubt. Would I be happier? No way. You captured some of the split second moments of wonderfulness that happen every day.


  9. Joy Hightower
    Jun 10, 2016 @ 22:37:04

    My sweet Somer, such a beautiful writing this is. I did not see it early on. And you will always remember and feel the same way no matter the ages you have reached. I can never forget how very precious you were … And still are And can never imagine our lives without you. And even when Pops died and you were a young teenager you truly were “the wind beneath my wings”. Thank you for the two most beautiful grandchildren in the world. I love you so.


  10. Joy Hightower
    Jun 10, 2016 @ 22:44:36

    Thank you my Somie. Thank you for truly being “the wind beneath my wings”..I can’t imagine life without you. I love you so much. I know exactly how you feel about your babies. And thank you for my beautiful granddaughters.


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